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  Assalam alaikum Sister,
  
  
• 1(a). If your husband is fulfilling all your needs, it will not be permissible to take money from his pockets without asking. Perhaps he is not aware that you need extra money, in which case we will advise you to talk to him about your need, or talk to an elder in the family who may explain your situation to him.
  
  (b). What is your husband's reaction when you tell him that you will take money from his pocket or when he sees the accessories/ clothes which you have bought? This will give you an idea if he is OK with it or not. We will advise you to let him know when you have used money from his pocket, example, "I used ten dollars/rupees today for such and such thing". It is only permissible to take from his pocket when the husband has such extreme temper and character that one cannot even talk to him on any issue, and when your basic needs are not met. So, like we mentioned that if you can talk about it and keep the communication open, it would be the best solution. We hope that this clarifies the answer for you.
  
  
• 2. Is wearing burqa (Hijab and Niqab) is compulsory in Islam or one can just cover her hair completely? Please refer to a detailed answer on this topic on the "questions and answer page" of this website. [Editor's note: Reference to question on Hijab: Is wearing the niqaab (covering the face) necessary? ]
  
  
• 3. It is best to offer Isha salaah in the first portion of the night and tahajjud salaah in the last portion of the night. it is not advisable to delay the Isha salaah as there is a great chance that one may fall asleep and not be able to wake up. if you are asking about the exact time,"12.00 o'clock " i.e. midnight, then there is nothing wrong in performing salaah at midnight.
  
  May Allah grant you steadfastness in deen and happiness in life, Aamin.
  
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Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullah
Salaatul Haajah:
It is narrated by Abdullah bin Obi owfaa RA that the Messenger of Allah said "Who ever has a need from Allah, or in relation to man, he should perform wudu in a complete and beautiful way, then offer 2 rakaahs of salah. He should then praise Allah and send salawaat (durood) upon Nabi SAW and then say:
"Laa ilaaha ilalaahul haleemul kareem-subhaanallahi rabbil arshil azeem-wal hamdulilaahi rabbil aalameen -as aluka moojibaati rahmatik-wa azaaima maghfiratik-wal ghaneemata min kulli birr- was salaamati min kulli ithm- laa tada' lanaa dhamban illaa ghafartah-walaa hamman illaa farrajtah-walaa haajatan hiya laka ridan illaa qadaytahaa -yaa arhamar rawhimeen" (Ibne Maajah-Tirmizi)

According to the narration above, we are not told of any specific soorahs to recite in salaah.

We learn from the Quraan and Sunnah that we should engage in salaah for all our needs. The best time of offering optional prayers is in the last portion of the night,when the entire creation is in sleep and neglect, this is a great time to earn the help and pleasure of Allah SWT. If one is unable to do this,he/she may offer salaah at any other time, (aside from the makrooh times)

We hope that this answers your question,insha-Allah.

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Respected Sister in Islam

Wa alaykum salaam warahmatullah

So long as you are happy with what Allah SWT blesses you with, and you strive to fulfill the rights of both, sons and daughters equally, there is no harm in reciting Duas.

First and foremost you have to be punctual in your faraaid (obligatory) actions, especially Salaah. After every Salaah you may read the dua of Zakariyya A.S "Rabbi hab lee mil ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibah. Innaka sameeud dua" (Soorah Aale Imraan)

Further you may recite "Yaa Awwalu" 40 times for a duration of 40 days.

May Allah SWT grant you a healthy and pious child, Aamin.

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Marriage to a Christian/Jewish woman

In principle, marriage to a Christian / Jewish female is permissible with two conditions;

1. She must not be a Christian/Jew by name only, as is the case with most people today, She must, at least, believe in the basic fundamentals of Christianity/ Judaism, follow a book, prophet and laws etc. 
2. She must not be a Murtadah, i.e. she was previously a Muslim, but later converted to Christianity/ Jewish.

However, in spite of marriage to the Ahl-e-Kitaab being permissible, it is very strongly advised that a Muslim male should not marry a Christian/Jewish female. Further, the Ulama have explained that this permissibility is in Daar-ul-Islam (Muslim lands) only and even so it is Makrooh-e-Tahreemi.

Umar RA used to dislike the marriage to women of Ahl-e-Kitab, due to the harms of such a nikaah. If this was the case in his time, then how much more precaution should we take in today’s time?  On one occasion when Hudhaifa RA married a Jewish woman, he asked him to divorce her. Zayd ibne Wahb RA says that Umar RA said, "The Muslim man marries a Christian woman, but the Christian man does not marry a Muslim woman."

Ibne Umar RA used to say,"I do not know of a greater shirk than her saying that Jesus is her lord"

Further Allah SWT has advised us in the Quran, "And indeed a slave woman who believes in Allah is better for you than a free woman who makes shirk with Allah, even though she pleases you" (Soorah Baqarah, 2:221)

It is recorded in the two Saheehs, Abu Hurairah RA narrates that the Prophet SAW said, "A woman is chosen for marriage for four reasons/qualities: her wealth, her social status, her beauty and her religion. So, marry the one with Deen (religion) may your hands be filled with sand (a statement of encouragement)

Ibne Amr RA narrates that Allah's messenger SAW said, "The life of this world is but a delight, and the best of delights of this earthly life, is a righteous wife" (Muslim)

In today’s society, we have witnessed our Muslim brothers  marry non-Muslim women, and sadly also witnessed the trauma that they face a few years down the line when the children are growing up, or ,when the woman says that she has no intention of ever following Islam.  Another most common dilemma is the clash of cultures, he always yearns for a wife who understands his way of life, while she yearns for a husband who could share her freedom of thought and ways.

If a man is interested in marriage to a woman of Ahle-Kitaab,and he has strong hope that she will accept and practice Islam sincerely, then he should make means for her to meet fellow Muslim sisters who may present Islam to her, teach her the basic principles of Shariah etc. infact for her there will be two rewards, one for practicing on her religion and second for embracing Islam.  But if she says that she will only accept Islam after marriage or later on, then one will wonder, why not now, why the delay ?

May Allah SWT grant us the understanding of the importance of Deen in our Spouse and children, Aamin.

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Photos and Pictures

Picture frames and photographs of animate objects are not permissible.

Pictures of inanimate objects e.g. trees, mountains, etc. are permissible. 

Ahaadeeth on prohibition of pictures and drawings: *

• Abu Talha (Radhiyallaahu Ánhu) narrates that Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'Angels do not enter a house wherein there is a dog or picture.' (Mishkãt vol. 2 p. 385)
• Ábdullah ibn Masóod (Radhiyallaahu Ánhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam)
  said, 'The people with the most severe  punishment by Allah will be the picture makers.' (Ibid).
• Ibn Abbas (RA) narrates, 'I heard the messenger of Allah saying,  
  "Every picture-maker will be in the fire. A life will be created for every picture that the picture-maker made, and he will be tortured in Hell."  If you have to make pictures (says Ibn Abbaas) then make a picture of a tree  or such things which are inanimate.' (Bukhari and Muslim)

Images on cam-corder/computer: 

The Ulama differ in their opinions regarding the images that appear on computer/TV and videos.  
 
According to some reliable Ulama like Mufti Taqi Usmani Saheb, these are not strictly Tasweer (picture making) as it is not in a durable form - refer to albalagh.net. However, many other reliable Ulama do not differentiate between an image being durable or not. Hence, images on TV and videos is Tasweer and still prohibited. 

Apart from that, it should be realized that anything placed on the Internet is in public domain. In its passage from source to destination, it is stored on numerous computers and can be retrieved by others, even though it may be deleted right away by sender and receiver.

Hence, it is best to exercise abstinence in matters which are doubtful. 
 
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Assalmu alaikum Wa Rahmatullah,

This is a good thing that you can sense regarding your frustration about the religion. This also a sign of faith (Iman). The best thing you should do is to perform two rakat Salatul Hajat and ask Allah (SWT) to help you and for your routine please read 41 times Surah Fatiha after Fajar daily.

And Allah knows best. Insha Allah, Allah (SWT) will help you.  

Wasalam. 

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Dear Sister, 

According to the details in Surah Baqarah (Ayat # 106) that gives the reasons for the new revelations and the cancellations of the commandments from Allah (SWT). “Whenever We abrogate a verse, or cause it to be forgotten, We bring one better than it or one equal to it.  Do you not know that Allah is powerful over everything?” 

As we all know that any command of Allah doesn’t contain any faults, although, it is always according to the ability of mankind to absorb and follow the commandments of Allah (SWT). For example, an expert physician would never give you the details of the medication upfront that what you would have to take in each stage of your disease. He would give you only the medication first you need to cure the first stage and would give you for the second stage later.

Allah (SWT) knows the best that what would be the best time to reveal whatever would be good for us. 

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Dear Sister,

Your question was regarding non-Muslim people:

1. Your question is not very clear, but if you want them to embrace the Islam and they would be afraid of change in their lives after embracing of Islam; in that case you can elaborate them the mercy and love of Allah (SWT) and the bounties they would receive on the Day of Judgment.
   
   If your question is regarding the trouble they have been causing you, in that case, you should show them your best behavior and for your protection form their evil you should read “Allah humma inna naja’luka fee nohoorihim wanaoo’zubika min shuroorihim” (eleven times in the morning and eleven times in the evening) Insha Allah, Allah (SWT) will protect you from their evil.
    
2. Secondly you asked about good sites for the history of Islam, you may visit this website. http://www.albalagh.net /

Wasalam, 

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Dear Sister,

You can recite these Duas also;

1) Rabbi habli milla dunka waliyya

2) Rabbi laa tazarni fardaw wa anta khairul waaritheen

Wa salaam,

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem
Wa alaykum salaam warahmatullah

Respected Sister in Islam,

May Allah SWT grant you abundant reward for your patience on a tremendous loss, may he remove all difficulties and grant your husband the highest stages in Paradise, Aamin.

As you have mentioned that you still have much to learn, however don't let this overwhelm you, because knowledge is something that we seek from the cradle to the grave. I have met sisters who started learning about Islam from scratch, from each alphabet of the Quran, to the prayers, rules and regulations etc.

At this time, don't look at how much you need to learn, rather look at how much you have already accomplished, through the help of Allah. A person who is running in a marathon doesnt look at how much road lays infront of him, instead he takes each mile as it comes and in the end it doesn't matter if he came first or last, his mission was to complete the race successfully.

It is true that one's spouse is a great help in all our affairs, but it was the decree of Allah SWT to take him away at a time when you felt he was your only teacher. This may be an indication for you to turn all your focus and attention towards Allah alone, after all, HE is the best helper!

You have mentioned that your community is not very helpful, perhaps they are not aware of your situation and intention to learn. The best way would be for you to go forward and ask everyone around if there is any learned sister who can teach you about Islam, prayers etc. the key word being "learned" because you don't want to learn about peoples' practices and traditions, you want to learn pure Islam.

Until you find someone to help you, please feel free use this website for all your questions, it also offers excellent material on all aspects for new muslims.

Prayers:

It is true that the 5 daily prayers have to be offered in the Arabic language,there is no way around this, however prayer(supplication or Dua) in itself is not confined to the Arabic language. Just as people of other relegions fold their hands and sit down to pray, a Muslim (in the state of cleanliness) may sit down at any time, lift his/her hands and communicate with Allah for all their needs, and to thank Allah for all his favors. Ask Allah SWT to make a means for you in learning your deen.

Islamic name:

The name "Aabida" is indeed beautiful, it is feminine of "Aabid" which means "worshipper of Allah".If you feel happy with the name then you are welcome to keep it, as it will have a positive impact on your life,insha-Allah.

Hijaab and Actions:

It is a great blessing of Allah SWT that you are wearing hijaab, and it is sad that many muslim sisters are unaware of its importance in Islam. However like the saying goes, "Dont judge a book by its cover", similarly, Islam cannot be judged by Muslims.

As Muslims we are lacking in all practical aspects of our faith, Islam teaches us to honor our elders, so much so that the Prophet Peace be upon him, used to visit the elderly people often and see to all their needs.

In a narration by Amr bin Shuaib, the Prophet peace be upon him said "He is not one of us who doesn't show mercy to the young and honor the old ." (Book of Abu Dawood/Tirmizi)

Dont be upset by the actions of fellow Muslims, instead pray to Allah to guide them as He has guided you.

On a parting note, we would like to quote the saying of the Prophet Peace be upon him, as a glad tiding for you, he said, "When a person embraces Islam and his Islam is good,the sins he previously committed are forgiven by Allah SWT due to the blessedness of Islam, and thereafter, every good deed is multiplied by ten upto seven hundred , whereas every bad deed remains as one ,and Allah may overlook that too."

May Allah SWT grant you happiness and success,Aamin

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah

The first thing to do is read 2 rakaah of Salaat-of-Shukr, thank Allah SWT for this great blessing of conceiving a child. Allah SWT in his infinite wisdom knows when to give a blessing and when to hold it back, and as his servants we are completely satisfied with his decisions.

If we look into the lives of the prophets, Zakariya A.S and Ibraheem A.S, we find that they spent most of their lives without children, Allah granted them offspring in their old-age. Yet they were the chosen servants of Allah SWT who spent their lives in total obedience of Allah SWT, and exceptional humility. Their lives are an example for us to follow. Allah SWT has accepted your dua and you have conceived a child, Alhamdulilaah.

The only person that can grant protection to that child is ALLAH. Make dua daily and ask Allah to remove all difficulties and bring your child into this world in good health.

Also, it would be helpful if your husband could recite the following :

Al-Mubdi ÇóáúãõÈúÏöÆõ
THE ORIGINATOR

Allah is the originator of all. He creates without model or material.

Further, the names(of Allah) "yaa Raqeebo" and "yaa Wakeelu" should be recited abundantly through the day, until you give birth.

May Allah SWT grant you pious offspring, who are the coolness of your eyes.Aamin.

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem
Assalaam alaikum Sister,

Following are the answers to your question:

1. There was no existence of Judaism or Christianity in the era of Prophet Ibrahim (AS). Prophet Moosa (AS) and Prophet Essa (AS) came after Prophet Ibrahim (AS). Jews used to say that Prophet Ibrahim (AS) was a Jew and Christians used to say that he was a Christian.

2. According to Surahtul Ana’am (Ayat 163) Prophet Ibrahim (AS) said that he was the first in Muslims. However, who obeys the commandments of Allah SWT is called Muslim. Therefore the true followers of any Prophets were Muslims. Because, all Prophets preached only Islam.
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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah Sister.


If this is a regular insurance then the amount of money which exceeds the amount that your grandfather put in is haram. However, if this is an investment and the profits are shared amongst the investors, then the money will be halal on condition that it was invested in businesses that are permissible according to the Shariah.

Our advice to you is to give the profits/bonus to your non Muslim family since it is difficult to determine where the money was invested and if the transactions were according to the Shariah. The money (1200) that your grandfather put in is permissible for you to use.

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Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah Sister.

Mahr is a right of a woman when she marries. Allah Ta'ala says in Surah Nisa:

"And give to the women (whom you marry) their mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4].


However, it is permissible for the wife to forgive part of her mahr as Allah Ta'ala says:

"but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allâh has made it lawful)” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]

He does not have to give you the Mahr in full before you give it back to him. Insha Allah this answers your question.

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Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah
Honorable Sister in Islam,

All praise be to Allah! You are indeed very fortunate, at an age when the youth are being misled into the false glamour and fantasies of this world, your heart is yearning for peace and contentment, which can only be found in following the Quran and Sunnah of our Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam.

Your conviction to stay on the right track is already the first step to improving your life, and as with any new venture, you will experience hurdles and barriers on the way.

This is how Allah SWT made life in this world for a believer, but rest assured, with every hurdle you pass, your Eeman and faith will be stronger, insha-Allah.

Our first advise is to increase your knowledge of Deen. Start from the very basic knowledge, rules of cleanliness, wudu, salaah, hijaab etc. Women who wear hijaab with the full understanding of why they are wearing it, will always stay true to it compared to women who have not understood its reasons and importance. Knowledge is a weapon we cannot be without. This website offers excellent material on all of the above topics, and you can always ask questions when you are not sure of something.

Secondly, be practical on whatever you have learnt. Practicing on whatever you know,will be the perfect invitation to your family members,who will watch you closely. Even if they dont care much for what you are doing, actions speak louder than words, it will change their mind-set one day soon, insha-Allah.

Third advise is to always be obedient to your parents. There is no compromise on this issue, so much so that if a person's parents are non-Muslim, he/she still has to fulfill their rights. Never argue with them on their lack of practice on deen, or point out how much you practice on your deen, this will only alienate them from you. You need to win them over with kind words and good character. Take extra care to help mom out in her chores, do things before she can ask you to do it. They will realize that the goodness in your character is actually the beauty of Islam in you.

And last but not least, make Dua to Allah SWT. He is our creator, He gives us blessings and He gives us tests, only He has the power to make our lives better. Ask Him for every need that you have, and make this your habit in times of happiness or sorrow, after all, He is all-hearing, all-seeing.

May Allah grant you steadfastness in deen and happiness in life, Aamin.
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Assalaamu Alaykum
Respected Sister in Islam,

According to the Hanafi fiqh, the minimum days of Haiz/menstruation is 3 days and 3 nights , maximum being 10 days and 10 nights. There has to be a clean period of 15 days between 2 periods.

Accordingly, whatever bleeding or spotting occurs after 10 days and 10 nights will not be your menstruation, instead it will be classified as Istihaadha.

A woman may pray salaah, read Quran and fast during istihaadha. At every salaah time, make istinja (wash private parts), then change your underwear/pad and make a fresh wudhu.

You should keep marking your calendar on the days of haiz (maximum 10). Also mark whatever days you bleed extra, so that you know exactly which are haiz and which are istihaadha. Also remember that 15 days have to pass before your next haiz can begin.

If you need further clarification, please feel free to ask.

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Respected Sister in Islam,

1) SHABBE BARAAT/ 15 SHABAAN
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There are many Ahaadith that have been narrated on the virtue of the 15th of Sha’baan. One of them is the narration of Sayyiduna Mu’aadh ibn Jabal (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘Allah Ta’ala turns to his entire creation on the fifteenth night of Sha’baan and forgives all of them except one who ascribes partners to Him and one who harbours enmity in his heart.’ (This Hadith has been recorded by Imaam Tabrani in his Mu’jamul Awsat and Mu’jamul Kabeer and Imaam Bayhaqi in Shu’ubul Imaan)

Imaam ibn Hibbaan (RA) has classified this narration as Sahih (authentic) and has included it in his book – al-Saheeh. Hafiz al-Haythami (RA) has mentioned that all the narrators of this Hadith are reliable. (Majma-uz-zawaaid vol.8)

Besides this narration, there is another one classified as "sound" by Haafiz al-Munzhiri (RA) in his al-Targheeb (vol.3 pg.459). This narration is of Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (Radhiallaahu Anhu) and is recorded by Imaam Bazzaar (RA) in his Musnad and Imaam Bayhaqi in Shu’ubul Imaan. In fact, Hafiz ibn Hajar (RA) has also classified one of its possible chains as Hasan (sound). (al-Amaalil mutlaqah)

Besides the above, there are many other Sahaaba (Radhiallaahu Anhum) that have narrated Ahaadith regarding the merit of this night, such as: Abu Hurayra (Musnad al-Bazzaar), Abu Tha’labah (Shu’ubul Imaan), Awf ibn Maalik (Musnad al-Bazzaar), Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-Aas (Musnad Ahmad ), Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari (ibn maajah, Shu’ubul Imaan), Sayyidatuna Aaisha (Radhiallaahu Anha) (Shu’ubul Imaan) and others. The collective strength of these narrations cannot be refuted.

The general virtue of this night has been accepted by many great Ulama of the past. From among them are Khalifah Umar ibn Abdul-Aziz, Imaam al-Shaafi’ee, Imaam al-Awzaa’ie, Attaa ibn Yasaar, Imaam al-Majd ibn Taymiyah, ibn Rajab al-Hambaliy and Hafiz Zaynu-ddeen al-Iraaqiy (Rahmatullaahi alayhim) – refer to Lataaiful Ma’aarif of Hafiz ibn Rajab and Faydhul Qadeer.

In fact, Hafiz Ahmad ibn Taymiyah has said, ‘As for the middle night of Sha’baan, there are various narrations that have been narrated regarding its significance and it has been reported from a group of the Salaf (predecessors) that they performed Salaat in it individually, hence, such a deed cannot be disputed.’ (Majmoo’ al-Fataawa ibn Taymiyah vol.23 pg.132)

2) WEARING OF GOLD ANKLETS/JEWELRY

Allah SWT has commanded us in Soorah Noor verse 30-31"...and they should not strike their feet so as to draw attention to their hidden beauty/ornaments..."

The wearing of jewelry is not forbiden but such jewelry that makes a sound when moving, such as bangles, anklets with little charms etc. will be forbiden to wear in front of non-mahrams. A woman may wear it in her home or in a gathering of women.

Our belief is in Taqdeer, wearing jewelry below the knee cannot bring harm or avert harm. If Allah has decreed for something to happen it will, otherwise not.


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Bismillah
Respected sister in Islam

Baarakillah-May Allah SWT make your children the coolness of your eyes, Aamin.
Since you chose the name "Umme Haani" we will advise you to always call her by her full name.
It is very common in the society, that children with 2 names are only known by one part of their name. However, society only follows what parents re-inforce.
If the child is called by one name only, it defeats the purpose of keeping 2 names in the first place!
However, there is no sin in calling the child by one name only.
We hope that this answers your question.

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Bismillah,
Assalaamu alaykum

It is not permissible to use perfumes/deodorants that contain alcohol from grapes or date extracts. Such perfumes are impure and Salaat with it, will be invalid.

However, if the alcohol is synthetic, it is pure and permissible to use. Salaat without washing off such perfumes will be valid.
Sometimes, it becomes difficult to differentiate between genuine and synthetic alcohol. Thus, to be on the safe side, one should prefer using deodorants and perfumes that are labelled as ‘alcohol-free’.

Alcohol denat. means that it contains an added "denaturant" that makes it undrinkable/non-intoxicating.
The use of perfume with denatured alcohol is permissable.

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Walaikumsalaam Respected Sister

Bismillah.

Barakallah. May Allah Ta'ala bless you with a righteous child!

Aqeeqah is a sunnah of the Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam for those who can afford it. Rasul Sallallahualaihiwasallam has said "Every child is ransomed by his Aqeeqah which is done for him on the seventh day." (Tirmidhi).

If it cannot be done on the 7th day, then it should be done on the 14th or 21st day. The Aqeeqah for a boy is slaughtering two sheep/goats and in the case of a girl, one sheep/goat should be slaughtered.

1. Although it is preferable for the father to slaughter the animal himself, your in-laws can do the Aqeeqah in India. The baby does not have to be present.
2. Yes, the Aqeeqah can be performed on the 30th in India.

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Assalamualaikum Respected Sister

Bismillah.

The following steps should be taken.

1. Repent to Allah SWT. Chatting to a non mahram is beyond the limits that Allah has set for us. Allah SWT says in Surah Al-Israa (17) " And do not go near adultery." This means that along with the actual act of zina all actions that will lead one to zina are also not permissible. Therefore chatting via the internet or the telephone, dating, etc and any actions that lead one to zina are forbidden.
   
   Additionally, in Islam there is no such thing as 'friends' with strange man.
   
   Repentence constitutes the following:
   • Regret.
   • Firm commitment not to repeat the action.
   • Seeking Allah's forgiveness.
   
   Remember that Allah SWT is the Most Merciful and the Most Forgiving.
2. Talk to your parents. It maybe that they are not aware of your need to marry.
3. Make Dua to Allah and be patient. If this man is in your taqdeer, no one can stop this and on the other hand if Allah SWT does not want this for you, there is nothing that you can do to marry him. Keep in mind that Allah SWT is the best of planners. Trust in Allah.
4. Involve yourself in good actions so that your mind will be occupied. Attending religious lectures, serving your parents, helping the needy etc. are some suggestions.

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Assalamualaikum Sister.

Bismillah.

Zikr (remembrance) of Allah is the solution to depression and sadness. Allah Ta'ala says in surah Ar-Rad verse 28, "Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find contentment" In addition to this, please refer to the steps on resolving depression on the question/answers page on the website.

Salatul Istikhara is performed only when a decision has to be made. It is better for you to perform Salatul Hajah, the salaah performed in times of need. It is also meritorious to perform the Tahajjud prayer. It is the best time to talk to Allah and to seek help from Him. Rest assured, your duas will be accepted. Many a times we are hasty and want things that are not good for this life or the life after. This man was not written for you. Ask Allah to give you someone better. Surely, there are many men better than the one that you hoped for? We should have complete trust in the decree of Allah Ta'ala.

It is important that we do not doubt whether Allah will help us or not because this is part of kufr (disbelief). Allah says in the Quraan: " O my servants who have transgressed against their souls, do not despair of Allah's mercy. (Surah Az- Zumar verse 53)

In conclusion, we should always remember that Allah Ta'ala says " The life of this world is nothing but play and amusement. The abode of the hereafter is far better for those who are righteous' (Suran An'aam verse 32).
Our dreams, hopes and aspirations are the pleasure of our Lord and a blissful abode in the Aakhira.

And Allah knows best,

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Walaikum salaam sister.

Bismillah,

One of the greatest gifts that Allah Ta'ala has bestowed upon His servants is the gift of children. May Allah Ta'ala grant pious children to all the Muslimeen.

To answer your question sister, Allah Ta'ala says in the Quraan " Seek help through patience and prayer."(Surah Al Baqarah, verse 45)

One of the duas that you can recite is the dua of Zakaria (A.S)
Rabbi habli min ladunka thurriyyatan tayyibah. Innaka samiu addua. (" Oh my Rab! Grant me a righteous child as Your special favor ; surely you hear all prayers." Surah Ale Imraan, verse 38)

It is important that we place our trust in Allah, and display patience and contentment in the decree of Allah. Allah Ta'ala is our Lord, He has power over all things and to Him is our return.

Wassalaam

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Bis millaahir rahmaanir raheem

Allah SWT has said in the holy Qur'an,”…and Allah has made trade halaal (lawful) and forbidden usury (interest)- [Soorah Baqarah:275]

"Oh you who believe! Be God-fearing and give up what remains (due to you) from usury, if you are believers. And if you do not do so, then be warned of war (against you) from Allah and his messenger.” - [Soorah Baqarah:278-279]

The first thing to note from the above verses is the severe words used on taking usury/ interest. Allah SWT has not declared war against any other sin (as mentioned in the Qur'an), but he has declared war against the one who consumes interest. Now, whether this interest is given or taken willingly or not, does not make a difference to the ruling.

Allah SWT has made certain things unlawful, based on their essence.

Example: pork. If a person says that in the olden days, pigs grew up in filthy environments and ate filth and feces, today we have high standard piggeries, there is no reason for pork to be unlawful today! Whether the pork was consumed in those days or today’s time, the essence of pork will be the same and can never change. Allah SWT has made pork haram based on its essence.

The same applies to usury/ interest.

Further Allah SWT says, “… and if you repent, then the principal amount is yours (without interest) - [Soorah Baqarah:279]

This ayah prohibits receiving anything more than the principal amount of loan.

In the light of all the injunctions of the Quran, all forms of interest are forbidden, whether both parties are agreeable or not, big or small interest amounts, whether the debtor is rich or poor, whether the loan is for personal needs or commercial purposes.

The point that you have mentioned about repaying a loan with a little extra in return, through one’s own initiative and satisfaction, without any condition being made about it, does not fall under interest. This is called “Husnul Qadaa” (a good way of repaying a loan). The difference between this and interest is that in interest, a fixed amount is stipulated, above the loan amount, for the time of repayment.

If no amount was fixed and the person gives a little extra back, out of his own wish, this is commendable and was practiced by the Prophet Sallallahu`alaihi wasallam himself.

“The best amongst you is the one who repays his loan with good grace” (Meaning of a narration from Bukhari)

If you receive gifts from fellow Muslims or relatives and you do not know their source of income, you may accept it. However, if you are certain that they have unlawful income, then you should not accept it.

We hope that this answers your questions.

May Allah SWT guide us to the truth, Aamin!

And Allah knows best.
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Bismillah

Masha- Allah, your dedication in observing Hijab, and good character towards your family and in-laws, will invite them to Islam, Insha-Allah.

1. It will not be correct for you to breastfeed openly in front of anyone, as this is against Hayaa (modesty).
We would advise you to take a long shawl or sheet and cover your chest area when it's time to feed your baby.

In the case of necessity, Hijab from your Muslim or non-Muslim sister will be from your navel to your knees.
(Mukhtasar al kodoori pg 742). This means that in the case of necessity, it would be permissible for your sister/mother to see your remaining body. Cases of necessity would be like if you are ill and need help in the bathroom or dressing, even so it will not be advisable for your mother or sister to look un-necessarily at you.

It is reported from Zaid ibn Talha (R.A), he said that the Prophet (Sallallahu`alaihi wasallam) said, “Every religion has a distinctive quality, and the distinctive quality of Islam is Modesty.” (Muwatta, Ibne-Maajah)

Abu Huraira (R.A) has said that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu`alaihi wasallam) said, “Modesty is part of faith and faith is in paradise………..” (Ahmad,Tirmizi)

2. It will be permissible for your 6 month old to sleep with you, up to an age that he/she can sleep through the night without being afraid or in need of being fed.
Once again, for your child to see your Awrah is not correct, as this will instill in him/her that this is o.k.
As the saying goes that the mother’s lap is the first classroom/school for her child.
In light of the Ahaadith quoted above, we would advise you not to open your Awrah in front of the baby.

3. A baby’s digestive system is suited to milk only, in its first three to four months. However from four months onwards we generally start to introduce solid foods slowly, like cereals and mashed fruit or vegetables etc. with the advice of his/her doctor.

You may ask your doctor about goat/cow milk and when it could be introduced. Islamically there is nothing wrong in this.

We hope that this answers your questions. May Allah SWT make your child and all the children of this Ummah, the coolness of our eyes, Aamin.

And Allah knows best.
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Bis millaahir rahmaanir raheem
Assalaamo Alaykom Wa Rahmatullah

Respected Sister,

Gheebah is such a sin that falls within Huqooqul Ibaad, when the rights of a fellow being are usurped. Hence it will be necessary to ask his/her forgiveness before one can be forgiven by Allah SWT.

If that person has passed away or his whereabouts are not known, then we have been taught in a Hadith reported by Anas (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'The recompense of Gheebah is to supplicate to Allah S.W.Ta'ala for one's own forgiveness and for that of the person whose Gheebah was made.'  The Du'aa taught to us is, 'Allaahumma ighfir lanaa.'

One should make sincere tawbah/repentance to Allah SWT for this sin.  The requisites of taubah are three:

(1) To immediately abstain from the sin.

(2) To regret and wish one had never indulged in the sin.

(3) To make a determined intention not to return to the sin. (Ruhul ma"ani Vol28 Pg235)

One should also have hope in the mercy and forgiveness of Allah SWT.
We hope that this answers your question.

May Allah SWT guide us to the truth, Aamin.

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem, Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah wa Barakatuhu

Respected Sister in Islam,

You have asked a question which is a very important part of our lives as Muslim women.  We will try to answer it as simply and briefly as possible, Insha-Allah.

Allah SWT says in Surah Ahzaab, verse 59 "Oh Prophet! tell your wives and daughters and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments (Jalaabeeb) over them, that is likelier that they be known and not harmed/annoyed......"

In order to understand a word in any language, we have to ask the experts of that language.  The root word of "jalaabeeb" is "jalbab", which is used for things which cover completely.
Example: the darkness of night.
When the darkness of night comes, there is no corner left which is bright, everything becomes covered in darkness.
In the same way, jalbab is the garment that covers a woman from head to toe, with nothing left open. (Lisanul Arab,V 1 - Al muhalla V 3).

We will now quote the sahaaba (R.A) who have explained the jalbab to us so clearly, that theres no room for confusion anymore.
Ibne Abaas (R.A.) says under the explanation of the above verse "Allah SWT commanded Muslim women to pull this sheet on top of them, to cover their bodies, except one eye, when it is necessary for them to come out of their homes."
Imam Mohammed ibn Seereen says," I asked Ubaidullah Salmani RA the meaning of this verse and how the jalbab was used, he demonstrated it to me, by pulling a sheet of cloth over his head to cover his body, leaving only one eye uncovered."

It should be remembered that the sahaaba/ companions of the prophet Sallallahu `alaihi wasallam were the ones who witnessed the Qur'an being revealed, they witnessed how the prophet Sallallahu `alaihi wasallam practiced on the verses revealed, who can give us better insight into following the Qur'an than the prophet Sallallahu `alaihi wasallam and his sahaaba?

And what about the wives of the prophet Sallallahu `alaihi wasallam who are our role-models, how did they follow the verses of Quran? Aisha (R.A.) was the wife of Nabi Sallallahu `alaihi wasallam. Once, she was left behind by the caravan while returning from a journey. When she realized this, she thought it best to remain exactly where she was, the prophet SAW will soon realize she is not with them and come back for her. A few miles behind this caravan was a sahaabi, Safwan bin Mu'atal (R.A.), his job was to travel behind the caravan and pick up anything left behind. As he came closer, he noticed someone sleeping, when he realized it was Aisha (R.A.) he said loudly, innaa lilaahi wa innaa ilayhi raajioon, upon hearing his voice, Aisha (R.A.) says I
got up from my sleep and immediately covered my face with my shawl.  Safwan RA recognised her because he had seen her before the verses of hijaab were revealed. But since the verses had been revealed, she now covered her face.

Alhamdolilaah, all praise is due to Allah, who has made Islam so perfect and just, that there is no difference between how we practice on it and how the wives of a prophet practiced on it. There is no different rulings for different people. Every Muslim/ Muslimah is the same, the only difference is in taq'wa.

There are so many Aayaat and Ahaadith on this subject, that books have been written in great detail on it.  We would like to end by saying that if covering the face was not necessary, just an option for women to choose from, then the other aayaat of hijaab wouldn't make sense.  For example:

1. If women were free to uncover the face, why does allah SWT ask the men and women not to look at each other and lower their gazes. (Surah Noor)? How will we follow this command of Allah? If covering the face is not necessary, then neither should lowering the gaze.

2. If it was permissible to uncover the face, then why do we need permission before entering someone's home?
"Oh you who believe! enter not houses other than your own, until you have asked permission...." (Surah Noor)
This aayah is guarding the females of the home so that they are not looked upon by strange men.

3. Allah SWT commands the women "... and make not a dazzling display (of yourselves), like the former times of ignorance...." (Surah Ahzaab) and also "...And tell the believing women that they lower their gaze and guard their modesty and not display their beauty....." (Surah Noor).
Is the face not part of the beauty of a woman? In fact, it is a focal point of her beauty. I came across a survey last year which was conducted amongst the men. They were asked as to which parts of a female would first get their attention? 80% of them replied her face, eyes and lips would attract them first, followed by her body.

4. Why would Allah SWT command the men to ask for any need from behind a curtain?
If a woman can uncover her face then why not just ask her face to face? (Surah Ahzaab)

5. If a woman's face is showing then a man would not be captured by her voice on first impulse. But when a woman's face and body are concealed, Allah SWT has further commanded her not to be complacent/sweet in her speech with the males. (Surah Ahzaab)

Allah SWT has made all these rules for the betterment of mankind, not to make us upset or miserable. Parents make rules and regulations in their homes because of the love they have for their children. If someone says that a mother disciplines her child because of hatred or misery, we would say that its absurd. Similiarly, Allah SWT knows what is best for us while our knowledge is limited.  Our success lies in following the Quran and the Sunnah of our Rasool Sallallahu `alaihi wasallam.

We hope that this answers your question. For further detailed reading we would recommend the book "HIJAB"
(http://www.islameasy.org/hijab.php) by Dr. Mohammed Ismail Memon Madani. There isn't any aspect of hijab that is left out in this book.

May Allah SWT grant us the true understanding of his deen, Aamin!

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah

Dear Sister in Islam,

1) Asking for permission from your husband, when taking on any job/work at home, is more of a mashwara (consultation). Imagine if your husband decides to do some work/job without telling you anything, you will feel hurt and left out. I think he would feel the same. If you have any ideas, sit down and discuss it with him, like partners and you will Insha-Allah see Baraka in your rizq (sustenance).

A woman is required to take permission of her husband in all of her affairs.
Generally, a woman is independent in her nature and habits, she can do a lot on her own, so Allah S.W.T through his infinite mercy has ensured that communication and consultation prevail in marriage. If Allah S.W.T did not make this rule for us, there would not be any stable marriage today.

2) A man is required to see to the food, clothing and shelter of his wife. As a Muslim, he should not be too miserly, nor too extravagant. The scholars always advise the husband to give some pocket money to his wife to spend as she wishes.  If a man sees to all of his wife’s needs, then he is not required to give her extra pocket money, however, if he does so, he will be greatly rewarded.

May Allah guide us to the truth.

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah

Dear Sister in Islam,

1. Marriage is a great sunnah whilst divorce is disliked by Allah. Rasul sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has said that if a woman asks for a divorce for no reason, then the smell of paradise is forbidden for her [Tirmidhi]. It is the responsibility of both husband and wife to give 100% effort to make their marriage successful and their home peaceful and Islamic. Divorce is permissible only as a last resort.

Ask yourself the reason of your husband's mistrust. Is this his personality? If so, resort to patience, Salaah and Du'a. May Allah remove his doubts because suspicion is a major sin. In most cases, this is because of his lack of confidence, therefore always reassure him of your love for him. If your husband does not trust you because of a previous error, then seek to regain his love and confidence by displaying your love for him, regret (on the mistake), and commitment to the marriage. Be ever cautious of not repeating the same error that had caused the problem.

In any case, do not speak to non-mahrams even if they are your relatives and do not leave the home without his permission.  Do not visit places he dislikes etc.  Insha Allah, with patience, Du'a and effort your husband will come to trust you.

2. If you have no relatives to advocate for you, then do seek the assistance of an Alim (scholar) in your town.  Consulting an Alim will benefit both you and your husband Insha Allah.

3. Serving your husband is an ibadah. Abu Hurairah narrated that the Rasul sallahu alaihi wasallam said, "If a women prays her five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadhaan, guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, "Enter paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish"

May Allah Ta'ala help and guide us in our decisions and actions. Ameen!

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah

Dear Sister in Islam,

Salatul Hajaat is a regular 2 rakaah prayer followed by a Du'a that has been prescribed by Rasul salllahu Alahi wa sallam.

One can also pray Salatul Istikhara when seeking guidance from Allah. This is also a 2 rakah prayer followed by a Du'a. The Dua's can be found in Du'a books. A good Du'a book that has been translated in various languages is Al-Hisnul Haseen. The most preferred time for this prayer is the last portion of the night before the fajr prayer. But you can pray it at other times too.

It is an ibadah to seek help from Allah. We should not become despondent if our Dua's have not been answered. It may be that Allah Ta'ala has bestowed on us another bounty, or granted us relief from a difficulty, or a reward is given to us in the Akhirah in place of it. Alhamdulillah, Allah Ta'ala always grants us what is best for us and we should not be hasty or ungrateful.

In addition, it is important to research and read books and articles on marriage so that we look for the qualities in a man that are pleasing to Allah Ta'ala. There are articles on this website too.  Do read them and arm yourself with the knowledge of Deen.

May Allah Ta'ala grant you a spouse that will be the coolnes of your eyes. Ameen!

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Editor's note:
Du'a for Istikhara: http://www.islameasy.org/images/Treasures-Large/46.htm

Salatul Hajaat, Du'a and the method given on page 54-55 of the following booklet: http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/BeautifulSunnats.pdf

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Bismillaahir rahmaanir raheem

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah

Dear Sister in Islam,

Masha-Allah your zeal and dedication to deeni matters is praiseworthy, especially in today's time when we face difficulty in upholding it.

As you have mentioned that before marriage, your husband wanted that you both should live your lives in accordance to the Quraan and Sunnah. You need to think back, when did he move away from this mind set. Was it suddenly or gradually? If it
happened suddenly then you should think about what could have brought on the sudden change? if it happened gradually, and you feel that he is moving away from deen (not just the niqaab issue) then you need to examine the issues affecting his thoughts. Is it friends, outside environment etc.

Whatever the reasons may be, you will have to remember that every person goes through some changes of mind and heart at some point in their lives. This is part of being human. Allah subhanahoo wa ta'ala has chosen you to be his wife because you will be his strength in upholding deen.

Our first advise will be, to uphold Salaah and try to bring more deeni activities into your home. Allah subhanahoo wa ta'ala has taught us in the Holy Quraan, "Ask for my help through patience and Salaah" - Masha-allah you are already observing patience on this challenge. After making wudoo, read 2 rakaah of Salaat-ul-Haajat (prayer of need) daily and open your heart to Allah, ask Him to bring change in both of your lives.

Secondly, before he comes home, clear your mind of any of his shortcomings, instead think about all his good habits. You can never win him over by reminding him of what he wanted before marriage etc., he will become agitated. I know of a sister who
wears niqaab though her husband totally disagrees on it. However - she never argues the case with him, instead if he brings the topic up, she only politely listens. After 2 or 3 such one sided discussions, he gave up talking about it. However, she says that
aside from the niqaab she has given him no reason to be annoyed with her, so he has no option, he loves her dearly!

Last but not least, bring the Quraan and Sunnah into your life in all aspects, soon your husband will see your devotion to deen and he will want to do the same. It may take time but remember, the fruits of patience are indeed sweet!

May Allah accept your duas and grant you strength in facing these challenges, Aameen!

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Bis millaahir rahmaanir raheem
Assalaamo Alaykom Wa Rahmatullah

Respected Sister,

Masha-Allah it is commendable to note that you have the wish to serve your parents and see to their needs. As a daughter, you can be a great support to them emotionally and just spending time with them is a means of earning reward.

We should keep in mind that Allah subhaanahoo wa ta'ala, through his infinite mercy, has not placed any financial responsibilities on a female, whether a mother, daughter or wife. Financial responsibilities are on the males, as a husband, father or son.

However Islam has not stopped a female from having an income. If you have a talent in, example: cooking and baking, dressmaking, or looking after children, you could earn an income in the relaxed atmosphere of your home. In the United States many Muslim women are working from home and they earn a substantial income, which is all their own. Even after having a good income, Islam does not ask them to spend on anyone.

The example of Ummul momineen Khadeeja (R.A) comes to mind. She inherited the business of her father and having no males to look after it, she did so herself. She had people working for her and, in fact, this is how she heard about the Messenger of Allah , Sallal laawho alaihi wa sallam, and struck by his honesty and integrity, she sent a proposal to him!

Lastly, I would like to mention that you could talk about your concerns to your husband and communicate with him.  Tell him about your concern for your parents and take his suggestions as well.  Maybe his kind words and support will remove your stress and make you feel better.

May Allah guide us to the good, Aameen!

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Assalamualaikum Warahmatullah Sister

Bismillah was salaatu wassalaamu ala Rasulillah

Baarakallah, May Allah Ta'ala grant you a child that will be the coolness of your eyes.
It is very important to select good, beautiful and meaningful names for one's child. Rasul sallallahu alaihi wa sallam is reported to have said,
"On the Day of Qiyaamah, people will be called by their names and the names of their fathers. Therefore a good name must be selected. "(Abu Dawud)

Rasulullah sallallhu alaihi wa sallam also said "Allah the exalted likes best the names Abdullah and Abdur Rahman". (Muslim)

It is also desirable to keep the names of Prophets (AS), companions of the prophet S.A.W or pious scholars.

Since Samad means independent (only Allah is independent) and is a name of Allah, it is only permissible to keep it if we attach Abd (Abdul) before it.

There are many resources that you may use to select a good and beautiful name for your child. One resource for Islamic names is http://www.islameasy.org/islamic-names.php

And Allah knows best.

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 Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakutuh

Sister, the only advice that I can give you is to take note of his commitment to Islam. If he is one who attemps to fulfill the faraaidh (compulsory actions like Salaah, Zakaah etc) and the Sunnah of Rasul sallalahu alaihi wasallam (good conduct etc.), then perform Salatul Istikhaarah, seek the advices of your wali and put your trust in Allah.

There are many resources to guide you. One resource is at the web site http://www.islameasy.org/marriage-in-islam.php
The kitab "Nikah (marriage) in Islam" written by Maulana Asharaf Ali Thanwi (RA) is also beneficial.

And Allah knows best.

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Bismillah.
Assalamualikum sister. 

May Allah the Almighty bless and reward you for your patience. The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam once said “How wonderful is the case of a believer. When he receives a bounty he thanks Allah and this is good for him and when a calamity befalls him, he is patient and that is better for him.”

Sister, my advice to you is to seek help and counsel from a pious scholar in your town or a wise member from your family.  It will be beneficial for you to note the following before consulting with someone.  When is he most likely to drink?  Is it with a certain group of friends?  Is it a daily habit?  Is it his lack of religious knowledge?  Does he hide and drink?  Does he do it openly?  Does he drink in front of you and the kids?  Does he become abusive?  Is he particular about his daily Salaah?  These are just some pertinent questions that you can ponder upon.

Your husband should be advised and encouraged to abandon this action for it is displeasing to Allah.  Rasul Sallalahu alaihi wa sallam has said that drinking wine is the root of all evils.  There are many other Ahadith on the punishments of drinking and studying them with him is beneficial, Insha Allah.  If he regrets his actions and seeks counseling to leave this habit then you are advised to help him and encourage him.

Additionally, we should not underestimate the power of dua.  Allah Ta'ala says in the Quraan in Surah Ghafir "And your Lord said: ' Invoke Me, I will respond to you".  Rasul Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has said that Dua is the essence of worship.  An extremely valuable time is the time of the night prayer (Tahajjud).  Rasul Sallallahu alahi wasallam has said, "Every night there is a special space of time, during which whatever a Muslim asks Allah of, for any good pertaining to this life or the hereafter, it will be granted to him; and this time comes every night." (Muslim)

Sister, it is very important to ask of Allah, as it is only Allah who can change hearts. One should pray Salaatul Hajat daily. This can be done at any time.

There are many duas in the Quraan and Hadith that you can recite.  In surah Alfurqaan verse 73 there is a beautiful dua:

"Rabbana Hablana min azwaaajina wa thurriyyaatina qurrata a'ayun. waj alna lil muttaqeena imaamah."  'Our Lord! Bestow on us from our spouses and our children the comfort of our eyes and make us the leaders of Taqwa (piety)’

One of the duas from the Hadith that you can recite is "Allahumma musarriful Qulub Sarrif qulubana 'ala Ta'atik (OAllah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to your obedience.)

You can also recite Yaa Hayyu Yaa Qayyum birahmatika nastageeth.  There are numerous other duas that you can recite.  

Sister, May Allah Almighty guide your husband to the straight path and may He grant you the ability to help your husband in the best manner. May Allah reward you for your patience.

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How to resolve depression and stress?

My sister and I suffer from a lot of acne, weight gain and stress...a lot comes from our husbands...is there a Dua or ways of Sunnah that we can change to benefit our health? We have become very lazy and depressed.

Bismillah.

Allhamdulillah, Islam is a complete way of life.  Allah ta'ala has guided us through the Quraan and Sunnah. The following are some steps you can take to alleviate your depression and laziness, insha Allah:

1. Imaan and righteous deeds:

“Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)” (al- Nahl 16:97 )

Allaah tells us and promises us that whoever combines faith with righteous deeds will have a good life and a good reward in this world and in the Hereafter.

2. Seeking help with patience and prayer:

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And seek help in patience and al-salaat (the prayer)…” [al-Baqarah 2:45].

Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Whenever the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was grieved by something, he used to pray.”

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience,
and that is good for him. This does not apply to anyone but the believer.” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 2999).


3. Occupying oneself with acquiring beneficial knowledge for the sake of Allah Ta'la.
This will distract one from dwelling on the causes of anxiety.


4. One of the greatest means of feeling contentment and of acquiring peace of mind is to remember Allah a great deal (dhikr). This has a great effect in bringing contentment, peace of mind, and relieving worry and distress. Allah says:

“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest” (al - Ra'd 13:28)

Anas (may Allah  be pleased with him) reported that when the Messenger of Allah  (peace and blessings of Allah  be upon him) was distressed by something, he would say: “Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom bi rahmatika astagheeth (O Ever-Living, O Eternal, by Your mercy I seek help).”


5. Looking for the positive aspects of the events in which one tends to see only the things that he/she dislikes.

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘No believing man should hate a believing
woman.  If he dislikes one aspect of her character, he will be pleased with another.’” (or vice versa )

6. Counting one's blessings:

One of the most beneficial things in this regard is to follow the advice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) given in the saheeh hadeeth reported by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):

“The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘Look at those who are below you, not at those who are above you, so that you will not think little of the blessings that Allah has bestowed upon you.”


7. Focusing on the hereafter:

The concerns of this world overwhelm and confuse people, but if we make the Hereafter our main concern, Allah will help us to focus as was narrated by Anas (may Allah be pleased with him):

 “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever has
the Hereafter as his main concern, Allah will fill his heart with a feeling of richness and independence; he will be focused and feel content, and this world will come to him in spite of it. Whoever has this world as his main concern, Allah will cause him to feel constant fear of poverty; he will be distracted and unfocused, and he will have nothing of this world except what was already predestined for him.’”

Sister, Insha Allah these steps will be of help to you.  May Allah ta'ala grant you contentment.

And Allah knows best.
Alimah,
Fatwa Department, IslamEasy.org

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